Too sensitive?

My first case in my first full-time job out of undergrad consisted of a family where the mother was traumatized by the father's abuse of her and the kids, and as a result, had difficulty pulling her life together, while the father did what we asked and got the kids back, but I never felt 100% about it.  I'll never forget that family, and it's a little haunting to think about.

When I started working at the State Hospital, my unit was all female, and all of my patients had some sort of trauma history, many at the hands of men.

Throw in some hurtful instances of sexual harassment in the workplace early in my career, and despite the fact that I have no shortage of wonderful, loving, empowering men in my life, sexism/the objectification of women is like a punch in the gut to me, and I have been accused of lacking a sense of humor or being too sensitive.

I disagree.

Women always have to look out for our safety in ways men do not.  We can be accused of causing our own victimization by doing the wrong thing: wearing the wrong thing, walking the wrong way, being in the wrong place in the wrong time when we "should have known better..."  Even in my current job, which I love, I have been in situations where I have watched my voice and that of my female colleagues be silenced because of our gender, or a smart and insightful respected colleague be referred to as "that little nurse" in a dismissive way.  Gender discrimination is pervasive and it is harmful.

I read and post on a Beaver sports message board (who's surprised?) and I am one of very few women.  Being a rarity in that population, I do admit to enjoying unusual respect at times, so I am not complaining about that group as a whole.  However, on occasion, as one might expect, it turns into the boys club, and someone posted a youtube video today:

I wanted to "have a sense of humor" and laugh about it, but it made me really upset.  Like, "I-was-trying-to-study-for-my-licensing-exam-but-kept-getting-distracted-by-how-angry-yet-self-critical-I-was-feeling" upset.

So here is why I think this type of "humor" is harmful:
1. This guy is maybe a 4, but claiming that a woman has to be an 8 to be wife material, regardless of any other qualities. (I'm assuming that beauty is relative, meaning that about 20% of women are pretty enough for him to marry.)
2. Presumably, by crazy, irrationally mean behavior is included, and he is basically saying that this kind of thing can be overcome by being physically beautiful enough, which is stupid and self destructive for him.
3. If, by crazy, he means mentally ill, that this is like octuple the inappropriate.  People who suffer from mental illness have enough plaguing them, without it being inferred by some hegemonic a-hole that they can only make up for it by being physically attractive.  (I work with several women who, in addition to trying to work toward getting out of a very restrictive psychiatric hospital, also feel awful enough about themselves that they are trying as hard as they can not to eat at all.  It's heartbreaking.)
4. EVEN THOUGH I am an educated, confident, married woman with a husband who tells me every day that he loves me, I felt noticeably worse about my physical appearance and overall self after watching this video.
5. It simplifies half of the population into two basic characteristics.  Women can apparently be rated on their physical appearance and level of "crazy" (whatever the heck that means) but qualities like kindness, intelligence, industriousness, and spirituality (among MANY others) apparently don't play a role in all of this.

I could keep going, as there are so many facets to the offensiveness of this video, but I will let you all come up with your own ideas.

Bottom line: sexism is hurtful.  Please think about the effect you are having on others if you feel the need to laugh about it to increase your own self-worth.